Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
Take a swim in the deep end, the water is fine.
Impostor syndrome is the belief that you’re unskilled, inferior to others, or bad at your job, despite your successes. We’ve all felt impostor syndrome at some point in our lives. If you’re feeling impostor syndrome, you’re certainly not alone!
Effects of impostor syndrome
Impostor syndrome can cause anxiety and low confidence that can stop you from becoming the most successful version of yourself. Impostor syndrome can manifest in many ways, and each person’s experience is unique. You might have seen or personally experienced impostor syndrome in situations like:
- Not applying to jobs unless you meet every requirement (even though you totally don’t have to!).
- Taking on extra work to make sure you’re “doing it all” and to look more capable in front of your peers.
- Not attending networking events or conferences because you’re nervous or anxious.
- Downplaying your abilities during conversations.
- Shrugging off compliments because you don’t believe them.
Everybody’s got something unique that they can bring to the table and value that they can add.
Manage impostor syndrome
- Acknowledge your thoughts. Recognize how you’re feeling, and try to pinpoint why you’re feeling that way. This will help you figure out what triggers your impostor syndrome so that you can better manage it in the future.
- Own your accomplishments. You have your own unique perspectives and experiences. Think of all of the accomplishments and skills that make you different from the next person. Write them down in a list so that you can see just how much you have to talk about when you network. You have plenty to offer, so go into conversations with confidence.
- Be honest with yourself. Do a realistic evaluation of your strengths and weaknesses. Finding areas that create the feeling of not “being good enough” and working to improve them will help you feel more confident in yourself. Everyone has areas where they can improve, and there’s always more to learn, so don’t let your weaknesses hold you back.
- Have a conversation. Ask a trusted mentor, friend, or seasoned professional how they handle impostor syndrome.
- Help someone else. Sharing the knowledge that you have with others helps you feel more valuable. This could be giving advice to someone less experienced than you or sharing a unique experience with one of your peers. If you think you don’t have anything to offer anyone else, refer back to the list you made earlier.
- Fake it till you make it. Even if you don’t feel confident in your abilities, if you act confident for long enough, eventually it will become second nature to you. People are naturally drawn to confident individuals, so acting confidently will likely help you make even more connections within your workplace.
- Get to know people. Becoming more familiar with other people (Linkedin, Twitter, etc.) in your profession will make you feel less out of place. You’ll come to realize that experienced professionals aren’t as intimidating as they may initially seem. This will help you feel less nervous in the future when you meet other people.
- Know that you’re not alone. If you’re attending a virtual networking event, or you’re starting a group project with people you don’t know, you won’t be the only one who feels they don’t belong. Being around experienced professionals can be intimidating, even if you’re one yourself! Plus, even the most experienced professionals were once in your shoes. We all started somewhere.
Networking and growing your career is all about learning, not about being perfect. Don’t hold yourself to unreasonable standards. Instead, work to be the best you can be, be confident in who you are, and keep growing!
You are amazing, don’t ever forget that! 😊
